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Steve Gavatorta

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Joining us in the Huddle this week is Steve Gavatorta. Steve is a fellow Pittsburgher and has some amazing stories about his time growing up in Burgettstown, Pa. He went to Allegheny College to play football and missed his Senior year due to his "summer of Hell" which is also a chapter in his new book, In Defense of Adversity.  A consultant, coach and public speaker, Steve empowers his clients to identify, develop, and exceed their performance goals. Steve is heavily involved in Muay Thai and Yoga and tells Dave and I that he is in the best shape of his life. Check out Steve on his website: http://www.gavatorta.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey everyone. We appreciate you joiningus in the Huddling, I'm your host fifteen year, NFL quarterback Gusfron,alongside my longtime friend and cohost day, Haker, where we talk to guestsabout how sports shape their life be sure to check us out our website goo upwith guscom wher. You can listen to more episodes. Just like this. Now,let's join the huddle. Welcome everyoned, another episode ofHodoup with Gus, I'm your host Gust Frot fifteen year, NFL quarterback- andyou know we just have such a good time on the show and for a while now Ihaven't had my co host with me. So now back joining us today on Howto Wup,with Gus, where you could find us on RADIOCOM or wherever you listen to yourfavorite podcast or you can find us on Hutdl up with Guscom and go there andfind all of our podcast and all of U, our previous, shows and soon enough. We're going to be on sportcircus presented by MTV. But joining me in the huddle today is my cohost andlongtime friend Dave Dave Howa. You doing I haven't seen you know, whow,what's going on! Well, it's great to be back, it's only been about three months,but it seems like an eternity, so be longing to get back. You HERSA Walker,UN the other week and that's one of my all time. Favorite athletes, I'm sorry.I missed that. But you know I'm excited beyon today andlet's go for it yeah, so Dave joining us today is another Pittsburgh boy. You know, Ithink that you know he grew up here. He understands what the mentality ofPittsburgh is all about. You know from a Col town in Bergetstown PA. I can'tpronounce the other part where he was from Langlos. I think that but SteveGavator, as Gota Joyous today join us today and huddle up with Gos Steve,wrote an incredible book in Defensive Adversity. Steve. Thank you for joiningus. How are you doing some other pittsburgers user so tospeak? So Yeah Yeah? I love. I love talking yenser language. So, eventhough I've been all over the place, how's your inser language down in Tampa,I think I think I've lost it, but everybody I talk to still says I haveit. So when I do work, it's funny when I do workshops and what not my business,it never says. somethingwill come up to me after the workshoper doing the breakand they're like. Are you SOM Pittsburgh and I'm sayin? Yes, I amplease. Let me just tell me I didn't say Yuns and I'll be okay, so yeah, itstill follows me around. I guess: Well, there's a lot of steeler bars still inin Florida. I know for sure, like we've, Guson have a good friend that livesdown there. Jason Scwartz and I know, he's always bouncing from steeler barto steeler bar, so thers pittsburgis everywhere. Think absolutely we travelwell. Yes, we! Yes, we do so Steve One of the things we always talk about whenyou were growing up in Bergestown when you were a little kid. What's the firstmemory of why you fell in love with sports yeah, I think probably my parents sawmy mom and dad ran teenage dances of all things on Saturday nights effect.My Dad was very good friends with Porky Hedwok. You like that little Kidbip,but anybody made porky. I like right. He actually was my mom and dad's.Dances were actually advertised on Lamo and seriously. They wer Ote pess on theLamo and my dad was good buddies with Porty Chedwick tbut. They did theseteenage dances on Saturday night and on Saturday night, my uncles, my uncleplayed what was called the Midget League football and my Thawas, mygrandmother's son. Obviously so she was used to take me with her and man. Ijust felt alove with the bright lights, the colorful uniforms, the athleticismand it just that was my first pubby love of sports in general and startedmy lovel Fal with with football, and that I think after that, the next day Sunday mornings there wereeither notor dame highlights. Penn state highlights and grambling tigerhighlights, and I wanted to pay for the grandlong tigers. I thought I was goingto be the first Caucasian that that ever wanted to play for Granwen Til. Ifought up all my other buddies and friends wanted to play torgraph playingas well to ISO s to combinations. Probably you know Saturday nights WaSaturday nights watching Moncle and watching the highlights of Penn stateor another dame or grambling Sunday mornings right and then then you know Sundayafternoon at one o'clock here come the steelers and then whe you triepal toSunday. N Mornings also have the old the Hi football highlights with theyplay the claxical music. I cant John Fhasenda, I think, did the playbyplayer Whatnoti just hiigs from the...

...previous week, so all those thingsbeing from Pittsburgh really kick up. My Love Sports Bhut. Really footballwas my favorite sport and that's what I always wanted to want to APPLA Oneo toplay. So I'm still hoping I could I'm fifty seven. I still hoop. I can gow afew more inches and I still have hopes for playing for pennstake. So well. You always wanted to be a knitnyLin Huh, no, never pit tip an man. I probably this Sunday Manni's watchingJoe Pied. There was something about the OOf penctake, the discipline, the planeuniforms. They were just hard nosed and no flash, and I like that, that'sthat's how burgats tell people are, and I like that, that's my type of Balb, mytype of flitball, so yeah. I was more of a Penn Tatfn Esteve. What do youthink about the speak? O Pitton, Penn State and hat they they're, not reallyplaying anymore like and its going to be a long time. What's your opinion onthat? I think they need to get back to that. It was that was a great wivelwhere you have a Mosttil cruin done in western Pennsylvania, the the wpill forthose players, so a lote of those players playing that game playedagainst each other in high school. So I think that's a rivalry that thatdefinitely needs to continue absolutely yeah. Now that that's true, so when youwere growing up in Burgagetown because David, I love talking about this whenwe were kids and in our neighborhoods and going around and you wo just havepickup games of every sport. You know that's kind of how I learned to play alot of sports was. Was We just were out with our buddies? You right, we justwent out and played. There was no rest, no parents, no nobody else around andyou had to deal with all those situations. So tell us a little bitwhat that was like for you in your neighborhood. I thought it was fantastic. You know Iwas listening to your interview of Peter Voss a few weeks ago and I thinkhe was stating something about. Let kids play. Let them develop theirleadership skills. Let them learn what it's like to fail. Let them learn. Youknow: Basics of athletics or human human life, while they're playing asforce but yeah there as nothing like playing pickup football games. Again.That's why I love that's. Why I hone my skills in football. We pay pick upbaseball games. We actually created our little baseballfield. We had different different friends of Min, their fathers didobviously different jobs and whatnot. We would take a little bit of whatSoso's father could promide us for our own field. One of my best friends was ahis dad owned, a lumber yard, so we were able to get live. We were able toget wood and we would bea little stadium yeah. Yes, Rdi you eveplay whiffball. I did little whitfetball and stick ball.Yeah Yeah T ells been huge, yeah you've been able to you know youcould play a lot of whifoeball back in the day. You know were You'e not losingthe ball a lot of times. Wh We played baseball as kids. You lose that ball,that's e!! only one! You had yeah yeah, that's right! That's right! Well, wehad some Philyo good open field, so we didn't lose too many balls so thatthat's what that was the nice thing, Bo birds, a there's, a lot of countrythere as well too. So you know we didn't lose too many balls, thankgoodness, but they may not have been the best mans. After a few. You knowfew games or whatnot. So and then you know that then athletic equipment, Wasnit reter, you know Easir- to find thewindow Dick Sporting goods, the closest place that we could go to is inWashington, Pennsylvania, which was eighteen miles away, and you didn't gothere every day you didn't have access to your parents, cars. So if you had abad baseball, you kind of have ha had baseball for quite sometime, so yeah bad baseball bag, clove bad bat,bad football. Whatever it was right, you just had to deal with it. That's a dog to bed, that's a good man, Hun Second Basementstoes playing without a glove, so rightyou're talking a lot of baseball.Were you a pirates fan and that would have been in the lates early s?Probably Yeah. I was all things Pittsburg definitely backos fan I meanthey were good. I think I ne thousand nine hundred and seventy two a St BlassOo. If I'm not mistaken, seven Hune an seventy two, I think they won the worldseries and then he late Sns, I o I yeah. So I was a good. I was a poats fan aswell too. Absolutely all thanks Pittsburgh axcept pit except it so you go on and you'veplayed mulciple and you sports you probbyplayed little league youthfootball, then you go on through to high school,was at Bergarstown was that the high school? Yes, man used to be actuallycalled Union high school because Burnetstown High School consistend ofall these little towenships rying Wolk. As you mentioned one of those littletownships, so we were actually called Union high school and then probablyabout ten yea. Ten years before I...

...graduated did transition intoBurgetston high school. It was aedy union high, Scolpin New Pastle, so Ithink bargets ton wanted to be a little unique. So I was Bergestown a juniorsenior high school and we were called the Blue Devils, the Blue Devil. So what sports did youplay once you got to high school? I played football and baseball andwrestled a little bit, but I was, I was a little guy. Actually Iwas in seventh grade, I'm not sure if youcan get a gauge on sizes of people, but seventh grade, I weighed seventy fivepounds. I started wrestling in seventh grade. I was the first guy on deck,seventy five pounds so, but I still lovt football. So I wrestle for threeyears that I always wanted to gain weight, because my love absolutely lovea lot of football and the good thing was. I was a hitter man even as alittle guy, I love physical context. I went back down, I was fast and I knew why'd make it. I just needed toget a little taller and gain some weight, and that's why I stoppe playingplaysop wrestling, but I stuck with baseball and football yeah. No, so those sports are sointertwined in Pittsburgh. Back in the day I mean growing up, we didn't havesoccer, we didn Havle Acrosse. We Didn' have a lot ofther sports, you playedbaseball basketball and then football and probably ran track, or you wrestledright. Ight, yeah yeah, but it' noted Westing, so yeah. Well, a lot of westernPennsylvania is big into wrestling. I think there's a lot of incrediblewrestlers that have come out of western Pennsylvania, so you're in high schoolyou're, going through all this, your playing sports. What positions did you play when youplayed football running back, half back and defense about the corner, so you grew up in the air where youplayed the whole game: Oh yeah, absolutely the whole game yeah!Unfortunately my senior year, I think our first game was on August. Thirtyfirst and I had it was against Carlington Callington was our rivals,there's bad blood there therere arrivals. If we were going to win onegame that year, we wanted to be Carlington and it was on August thirty.First, I think. FIRST HALF I think I ran for about fifty to seventy twoyards, the second half I was on the bench, the whole game. The coaches weretrying to get get me Sawr get me I was cramping up. I mean my pen is just I was stiff, so I played a little bitPea fence at gatime. I didn't play anymore offense that second half Iwould have over a hundred yards, but yeah. We play the whole game. An you.Have you better have enough water in you that are F beatin up banana's prioryou're going to be hurting so Steve? Did you have a coach on when you're in high school thatreally inspired you and that you still kind of remembered some of the lifelessons it were taught to you in high school yeah? His name was ZA. He was mydefensive back coach and on offensive cordator Terry Novelco was his nameproblem. Terry was probably the best athlete to come out of Burgenston highschool played at we been married back in the day when woman Mary ActuallyPlayed Pitt. He had he had a cover board and Jones. If I remembercorrectly when they playd that after Terry graduated, he came back toBurgatg'Stown and he t started coaching, and I just admired him great defensive,back great athlete and just a great coach. So Terry was one of mydefinitely from a coaching perspective fromBurget'stown. My biggest roll model, asode from that ther were alwaysBurgetts town. My father or my friend's fathers were very influencal lot of myfriends, father's coach me through baseball ar football or Westling, andthey were great influences on me as well too. So what was that, like, then you'R iyou'rein high school you're? Having a good high school career, how did you get toelegany? What was that? Did you get recruited? What was that process legfor you, yeah? I got recruiting. As I said, I wasn't a big guy, so Li JoePaul never did come by knock it on my door, but I was recruited by a lot of D,three schools and a few division to schools, so I actually was leaning ontowards which coaches were giving Yeu the best love letters. So at that time,Edinboroh was giving me the most attention. It was a coaching Dennis,prehen and Alegani was secind. They were Gettig me with a lot of lettersand whatnot tbut Dennis I' Wange to play. Th Edinburgh Dennis Creehansletters to me were outstanding. So the day I had to go visit, edinboro therTherere, a lot of other athletes there and Dennis greeted all these athletesat the table. So I should' bet out to shapeshake his hand and he goes. Whoare you and I said, Steve Gabatorta and you cound see his? I guess I look Taller on film. Let'sjust put it that way: San Wory the rest of the weekend upthere, both my my heart so ind up the second boll best level ofes waters. Ithot was from Aledani college and there...

...was a lot. There was a history withBargetzs town and an Alegani College, and so that's what I chose and I felt Icould play thet a lot faster. I started as a freshman, the COACHA cruded. Hewas a Gutn in DANC Slovic and he really wanted me bad and he doing summer capil in Allagana youactually they try. They had you go both ways to see you know: wherewhere wereyou you'd, be a good fit and almost immediately, I think offense was blueshirts deep that twe're goldshirts immediatelyslovics like you're, not raing, a blue shirt, anymore, you're wearing goals,so that was my preoat GAM. You started off as defensive back so Steve who, as Alegheni's biggest rivalat that point, and maybe they still are, I'm just not super familiar with theconference and everything I knowit' that that corridor going up. Seventynine is there's a lot of schools, but at that time who was the big rivalry er about thet ers an amber work backthere? I don't know if you hear that, probably Washingmon Jefferson andCarnagie Mellin. Although the CARNADIE melon, we didn't win most of therivalries. Unfortunately, they were pretty tough thet, coy W and J CarnegieMellon. Some of the other schools in Ohio were competitive to, but again simof the pen state pit dynamic, a lot of allegani athletes, W and j athletes andCarnagia athletes were played against each other, a wpiout. So once again,when you go to you're playing these guys, you're playing against guys youplay within high school, the quarterback for curting in Oit was aguy in David. Zedo was quarter back for Mguffi when we played when we play themin Burgestous, so probably wn, J and Carnege Bellon wj was a a little bitmore of a keep a matchup. However, my sophomore year we slaughtered them myfreshman, her sophmore you they they brought in a newcoach shot. I think his last name was lock Hart and he immediately turnedthat program around and they've been winners ever since so so yeah GIV meanso you make this transition from high school to College. Tell me about themost adversity that you've had to face. When you got to college, was it doingsports or afterwards or do wol? I'm Gos tat where you there Rigt Yeah? That'san interesting, I'm not sure. If you had a chance to read my book Bhut, Idedicated a chapter to that year. It the chapters called Y my summer from L,but the end of my Butin, the end of my junior year, I joined fraturnated anAlegheni and then in my junioror ild springtime t the years almost over and someone comes out of my fraternityhouse and says: Hey your mother's on the phone. You know we didn't have cellphones and- and I was kind of surprised BIF. My mother- never never called me.So I pick up the phone and she's crying, so I'm immediately shocked and she saidI want to want you to know before you hear I from anyone else that we've lostour house and I'm shocked. I'm thinking did mydad. We ore the produce market, I'm thinking did my dad geting a badbusiness deal. You know what happened here the night before they werewatching TV and all of a sudden they starte hearing these cracks and creeks. The ceiling was starting to crumble andthey could see cracks in the wall every going everywhere. So they had no ideawhat was going on. They left the House that night stayed with my grandmother.They came back the next today and our house had sulk three feet: An amainstus our house was built over a col mining room. It's something called mind: Sob sience,andhosdidnt collapse in in just the foundation cracked into, and thatinsult injury. Homeowners did not cover that and myparents only had two more house payments to pay that to pay that houseoff so yeah, so this was probably in. May Icome home over the SA mean. I need the Pittsburgh News and everything I comehome for the summer. My parents are in the produce market, so we're living ina one bedroom apartment, I'm sleeping on the floor, we're dealing with the HO esentially.What happened was the government came in and they said, if you rebuild onthat property, wire, still horn and listen whole, you rebuild on a pocperWi'll, give you two percent roan. So that's what my father took. So I comehome that summer living in one bedroom apartment my dad weld deal ot the house.I start working with my father two days there he starts complainingabout his his chest, hurting they later he's in the hospital, hislow collapse from some sort of celseum deposit slicing as Lon. So here ornineteen year old kid were whatare we going to do it. The House, my dad'slaid up I felt like the world, was on my show: Stop O my head was Geen toexplode for a little bit after about...

...five minutes of uther panic. I reallycaught my bearings and I started thinking. You know what my dad has beenpreparing me to run. This business every year I work for him, so I knewwhat to do and almost obetly. I got a strange sense of calm and, as my fatherrecovered, he took care of the house. I ran the market that summer so and bythe end of the summer I had missed all the physical training leading at thefootball camp. I could not play football my senior year because I hasrun the family store until school rest till school started, but that summer,which I call Thi summer from Hell, was by far the biggest adverse situation Iface during during my college times. In many ways that situation really made mea man. It may be the most influential thing that happened, my entire life. Well, I think that you know everybodyas they become an Adot, goes through some type of situation, maybe not assevere as your Steve, but we go through some type of adversity. Some type ofsituation hat takes us from thet vieuo responsibility to Hay. I got to go. Dothis now, it's all on my shoulders, so I think it's really powerful that storyand I think that's a good spot where we're going to take a little break,because I think I got to really think about the summer from hell here. So everybody hang on in there we're goingto come right, back, win to take a little little pose here and then we'llbe righ back on Hutlo up with gun, hey listeners, thanks for joining Dave,and I in the huddle we invite you to join our cusive huddle through Patreon,where you can get access to content made just for VIPs like yourself, headto our website huddle up with Guscom and hit support our podcast on the popup ad. Once again, that's huddle up with guscom. Now, let's get back in thehuddle, EON welcome back to huddle up with GosI'm joined by my longtime PREDICO Dave, higer again and also were joined bySteve Gabet. Tarto. Sorry Steve! You know it's like my name. You know thesePittsburgh names you gotto Saym, like twelve to twosand times to get used tohem, but Steves ad amazing book called indefenseive adversity. We just hoheardhis story about his adversity, went through in college the summer from Hellwhich is which Chapter Steve It's. I think it's chapter three or four. Ican't remember exactly your Ford, his book, but you know Steve. We all gothrough some type of adversity. I mean you just you just gave us the ultimatestory of adversity. So I'm sure that led you down the pathI mean you talked about. It made you a man, but it maybe gave you a sense ofwhat you really wanted to do in your life is, I you know, is that kind oftrue it did. I mean there, it matured me more than anything that I thinkgoing. Four years of college could not do. Let's put in that way, and I kindof had to deal with. I guess I did have to but often think about where my lifewould have gone. Had I panic had I not done that. Had the family had to closedown the store that year I mean I hate to say hat. I might be back inburtetstown coming gass. Who knows what I wouldhave been doing, but itdefinitely took a Tra trasectory for my life in factend of my senior year when I was interviewing for companies for jobs, I had te almost the most job offersfrom any of the senior class merly, because when I was in the interviews,people asking you tell us a little about your life. Just like you did tellus about the difficulty you face and Bill Bi Hir Hem with that story andBang they you know I gave out every attribute or compenency. A companywould want leadership. Communication skills facing obstacles, responsibility,people management. So all the attributes I learnd during that timewere very relevant to all the companies I was enterging for and then you addthe fact that I played. I was a three year Loterman in football and all thelearnings responsibilities that you gane with football. So, through thecombination of football, my education and that life experience, I had aclucper of rel wold skills and compencies that I could bling to acompany, and I could talk about them too. You know I, if a someone Saik, youknow, are you a leader? Yes, I'm a leader. Give me an example. I could youknow. I didn't just SALLWAS A leader. I was an elected captain because I waspopular. I was an elected happen because it was my turn. I had actuallyexhibited leadership skills. You know, so that is very valuable to accompany,so that really did kick off my life going forward absolutely and and helpedme realize again. I think that ar most difficulttimes in life are alultimately our best...

...times as well to we learn the mostthrough our difficulties more so than we do through our success. As I believeright so Steve, you had a lot of Intereste from the perspectiveemployers. What was your first job, then out of college t? Was a companycalled beachum products? I sold arpe fresh toothpaste, rescoft ups and yeah. I had a companycar and everything yeah. I have many job offers and the reason I tookBeachem I was actually all set to take a job if northwestern mutual life theywere giving they ned like Dennis cree headed edinbur. They were giving me thethe love story and all that good stuff ready to go work for northwesternmutual life, and I had a final interview on a Friday. They were goingto make me the job offer wleading the that week, my father called talked tome and he said: Hey there's this company called beachum products, sothey have an opening. Are you interested- and I said what do they doand he said y know they sell two pase. They said what do you think he said?Well, they have a company car so that made him happy being tha. He was anEnteproto, his whole life, so he said you know what the Heck So, why? Godjust look into it. So my first interview of Beachin was with thisGenti'm at a Pittsburgh Guy Northhills guy you're, going to love this name.Santo Latatra actually literally means the fourth saint in Italian. So I meetthe Samplaa Quata Guy and Santo. Just blew me away just what a great guy justis charismatic Guy Tho, almost to Ol Pars play football for a now actuallyand Wat. I wes where went to high school and after I left him, I went tonorthwestern mutual. They offered me the job and als. I can think about, wasslepting toothpaste for this guy named Santo, so I and up, took taking the jobwith beachom products and Santo became my mental. He stills my mentor to thisvery day and threw himthrough this job at beach hum all the upperlevel managers were firmer,proptering gamble, guys former proper DABL leaders and they brought them into beachhum and they pay in the day. Crockorand gabble had the cattle. Theywere, the Cadillac of training they trained their people on selling skills.Ten set call procedures how to handle objections, how to deliver apresentation- and I hadll that training and that's so that first job norallywas not only tdat. I learn about Santo andbe able was able to sell to basebent. I gained some very valuable skills inthat first job out of college. That really sustained me through my entirecareer and plan of the seat from my love of professional, impersonal,development, sales, training, leadership, training, because I at thatin that job I understood what how important that sondation was to yoursuccess in corporate America Yeh so Steve. I think one one of thethings that's interesting. Is You go from college? Obviously you had thesummer from Hell. You go right into business. What did you do as far as ric sports like? What wasyour your release? You know, because you were so busy, you know back in theday there were softball leagues and all those things. What did you do on theside? I was always very healthy. I mean I het the jam. I do my cardio, I dosome running. I do some weight with thing back in the day we play some flagfootball. I would place softball and whatnot, so I was always very active. Ialways had some sort of area of competition in my life as Ientered Corporate America so flag football softball, whatever that was,and just personal keeping my body physical and healthy. Now, however, atage fifty seven I've decided to take on something else called me tie, I'm lotsure. If you know what Moii tie is Tbut, it's up its out a kickboxing, and it'stie boxing basically also known as the art of eight limbs. So you use yourfists. You use your elbow, use your knees and use your feet, and I am Istarted this about six years ago: I'm addicted to it. So in my s I decided tostart starring and Fighting Mor Moneand, not the Ou know in a ring with anyoneor anything bat. You know staring learning learning a little bit abouttha stand up, kickboxing and whatnot, so I always love that competibench,always love staying active, so really transition from the basic sports offlag football to softball to now martial arts of all things. So how does martial art keep you in shape?Is it pretty inten? Oh, yes, you do some sparing for about five minutes.where, with I punching kick and elbow an and now a push if ou oget you inshape, rone of my coaches is gotting Dan rallings. He was a professionalfighter. He actually fought in what was...

...called the Word Combat League that wasactually subsidized by Chuck Morris, so Dan Rallighs Foughtin that and morecobat league and he's one of my instructors and I spot with him andhe's just a beast you're supposed to do three. Five minute rous O wee far andI've talked to him into just doing one minute round s like five one, an inAroust, because the first loud you know, I'm hanging in there I'l Ayble a leastblock and protect myself. The second round same for the first half of thesecond round. Second, half of the second round, I'm raning away from itfirround I'm tly on a Flix O, because I can't even protect myself anymore, I'mjust trying to w survive. So I'll tell you what, since I've started mar shorts,I have the utmost respect for martial artists, UFC fighters. There's two guysfrom the gym I used to work at are now in the UFC. The former orter was in theUFC and I hade the utmost respect for these athletes, the hardwork thededication you know before they make the UFC they're playing in some poducklittle town in the lobby or the the ballroom of a hotel with a hundredfands, and they they do it fom the love of it and then, when they finally makeit, I find UFC fighters. I've met, I woundn say thirty in person, the nicestmost approachable coathletes I've ever met. I played tennis this weekend with a guywho's, a martial arts, instructor trains UFC guys also, and I'm a slab byself, but he ran me offthe court and his conditioning. I don't think he had to drop a sweb. I fullyrespect the conditioning that goes into a that whole field. T at it's amazingflexibility. I mean it was like playing a cat. It was, he was so quick, Wy TeliHa. I made in many ways this is in my dult life. I made the in better shapethat I've ever been in my life. I do moy tie. I do yo hot yoga as well too,so those two combinations of hot, the hot Yo hibin tie the hot yoga reallykeep you flexible n in fact enhances your flexibility. Then, when you'redoing the Moy tie, you're kicking your striking, you know you have to you: Dohead kicks, you're kicking pretty high. I in many ways in my adult like thismay be the healthiest I've been and I'm addicted to it. I just want to keepgoing and dogoing out as long as possible and unfortunately Moiti likemost sports, has a short it's ging to have a shelf life t it's going to endbecause you're not going to be able to do that. You know in your sevens. Let'sput that away, yeah so Steve, so you know. I thinkthat what you're doing right now thist point if your life, we all talk abouthow exercise is so important for mental health and just doing something likethat. So can you talk a little bit about when you're healthy, like you areand you're doing these things how it works when you have adversity and youhave to face those things in your life? I think you understand that more thanmost, but can you explain to our audience why that is so important yeah? I think the number on thing forpeople to be able to successfully face overcome and learn from adversity is tohave a clear mind if we are functioning in a clear mindwhat I call or latial brain or corpex brain we're going to be able to staycalm with advotaty strikes, we're going to be able to make wiser decisions, saythe right things solve problems when we have that clear head and I think whenwe're healthy, we get that war. We just feel better we're not worried about indisease, we're not concerned about being overlate or active or out, and Ithink that whole thing about your adrelan washing getting that blotflowing o keeps that brain function, functioning and optimal level as well.To so there's a correlation between our physical development and how our brainfunction functions as well too. So I think that's our health connect. Our mental healthcan connects to a physichelt there's, no doubt about it. What I know I was talking to my wifeabout this. Last week we were thinking of like the successful people. We knowCEOS and powerhouses in the world of business. There's very few that aren'tin good shape. I mean it seems like that's a common denominator, good shape.They don't smoke their discipline. You know I mean it's, that's no accident! Well, I think in many ways we getstress. We need that relief. I know I do when I'm stressed I my the tensywhen I'm frustrated and I may be falling into emotional state, I willshut down. I will be able to think anymore or think clearly let be able toSolv promleses effectively, as I am...

...when I'm clear beded, so nothing likegoing and Wackin some mets going for e one doing some hot Yo. That reallyclears the head. It gets me away from. You know what I was. It gets to befunctioning back in that PORTEX OU, rational part of the brain. So for meit gives me that down time that escape to get away red juice, so I can seethose previous adverse situations or those obstacles in a new like much moreclear than I had bid when I'm work, when I'm frustrated so yeah so you'resaying that, instead of me going premanes or Ben and Jerry's, I shouldgo for a run e. That would help. I think I thinkthat pemannic sensh is going to be much better because it's less a guilt riddenafter you, after you've exercised doing so hey. I knowi no issue with you, know:Getg Mor todwork out and then an doing to com, any salanch afterward! THAT'SNO PROBLEM! So that's true o! Can you achieve belts just like, likein karate and stuff ur therre different colors of belts as you move up and whene tie have Bach Tat, Byi did a little bit of Braziand Jijitsu, so bjj doesbelt. Karate will do belts, other type of I think Tyondo they do belts as wellto particularly moly tide. You do not do belts so yeah, so so see. Let's get into what'sgoing on today right we got this crazy virus going on. People are out ofwork, there's so many millions of Americans going through crazy adversityright now. Your book hits at a great time talk about your group, yourcompany, and how they can, how you can help people and how you see peoplemoving forward through covid yeah, it's interesting one of my. Youknow I de a lot of sales training and what not that's part of my my callingas well to but I'm for Ellen you can imagine not a lot of companies arelooking for Samles training right now, but what's turning to a very popularrebinar for me now is something very, very much based on my book calledlearning and leading and selfmanaging through adverse ambiguous times. Sowhat I talk about kind of what I was alluding to earlier is understandinghen, how we percive helping people understand how they perceive adversity,and I talked about two parts number one is accepting adversity, except thatadversiony is a part of life. It's not going the Wa going to go away. It'sit's thing. Bad things are going to happen. Change is going to happen,advetity's going to happen. Failure is going to happen. Our ability to look atthat as as a non surpris will help us in turn solve that. We don't so whenadversary structure, we're not surprised. We won't get frustrated.We're basically aware O that hey this is a part of life, so accept theadvosty is going to happen. Secondly, acknowledge that Adversu is broughtinto our lives to actually help us grow, transform an Evelt into the people wewere meant to become so that helps us understand. Whe Ther, votay strikeswere not surprised and were immediately realizing. How I'd have to face this?Hopefully I coal overcome it that, at the least, I'm going to learn avaluable lesson from it. O help me become better down the road beingfootball players. What did we do? We played football? We played our SaturdayNight High School Gamer college game on Saturday night. What did we do? OnMonday for Sunday Watch Phil? We were basically learning valuale lessons fromthat game. To help us that next day, that's the same thing in life orobstacles are placed in our lives. If, even if we have a perceived failure, wecan leverage that opportunity for similar type times down the road. So Ihave people understand what is their perception of adversity and help guidetheir Fok crusts around that. Secondly, I hope people understand how our brainfunctions under stress- and I alluded to this a little earlier- There's twoimportant parts of our brain. One is our LYNBIC system also known as ouremotional brain, the OLYMBIC systems, what we're born with it that does not grow, transform or evolve ing time wewere stuck in that LYNBIC system or Drunmon starts rushing and our responseto adversity is going to be free, piter, fligt or some combination of thosethree, as you can imagine, when you're placing an obstacle when you're facingchange or the unpressent and it times like we'regoing through now, you don't want to be in frees fighter flight. Our Olympicsystem was meant for us when we were babies. When we were hungry, we cried.We our parents, fed us or when we were caven men or women, Dinosaur Pa. Weneed to run, but that was gith them, but it doesn't serve us as well now.

So the other part of our brain is ourcourt text that is known as our rational brain that does grow,transform inevolth toug time through our education through our lifeexperiences, both good and especially bad. When we're in our CORTEX part ofthat ban, thats Wer, rational thanking lives, that's wwe're, gointig able toconnect gots between learnings and events, sove problems. So what I try tohelp my plients to do is function in that quortpex part of their Blain Wenadversuy strikes. So the most important thing whet adversity strikes arechanges hitting or you're in some uncomfortable place. You want toprevent the transfer of authority from the CORTEX of the LIMMIC system,meaning stay in that rational state, because once I'm angry, I can't get onI'mad once I'm shut down, I can't get unshut down. I might stand up in at inthat mode for a while. So while in that mode, I might make bad decisions, Imight say something: I'm going to regret: I'm not going to be able tosolve problems. So I work with my customers. The help them understandtheir perception adversity, but also how they as a leader, can better selfmanage themselves and their teams as they go through these times, levergingthe strength of the teams, keeping them all op running of that octimal brainfunctionality state of mind. This is huge in sports keeping athletes in thatQUARTEX part of their brain, especially think of a quarterback. You know youthrow an interception. You know, Duin, that frustrated mode. You bind thesideline you're angry you're shut down a coaches. Yelling at you will guesswhat happens. Defense gets an intercection YOUV got to go back intothe game. Orare you back in that quartext part of their brain. Are youin that Olympic system? So it's imperative N N, especially in football,for coaches, for themselves, to stay in that rational part of their brain, butknow the athletes and keep them in that rational part of the brain. Is Yourquorterbackers Youre athlete a fighter? Does he get angry? Is He freezer? Doeshe shut down so one of those things that can set that athlete in thatemotional state? How does it Metafeste that athlete and how ou ASE a coach?Can you know heep your players yourself functioning to keep your players right,eay and in that mental part of the game as well? To does that make sense? Yeah?No it does. It sounds like you, cal almost be a marriage counselor as well. It's funny to Seein that I got apodcast with aloider recently and he does divort he's a divorce attorney andhe's like. I need to bring you an N, a mediation, so you're on something gus.Well, you know my wife always said I can ever change and I said no, that'snot true. I could change, and- and now I got somethng you know hey it's mycourt ets, my rational thinking and I've changed over time right. So now Igo back and tell her why I hi've changed. So you know, I think what you're doing isgreat. I'm sure you've been doing a ton of virtual keynote speeches now,because you can't go in front of people. What has that before we get to our twominute Yore? What has that been like for you to do most things virtual now,instead of being able to show your passion and be in front of people yeah,I'm Italian and I'm doing what Bo at me to Du. You Talk Alov with your hands.Why is that te? I Loe I'm blest to do what I wasbrought here to do on earth and when I do it, it just comes out natural for me and Ithink yeah, it's a little tougher to do it on a Lebenar and whatnot. So I domess I'm fortunate, I'm Lucky, I'm grateful that this topic, leading andself managing to adverse and ambiguous times has been so popular because somany people are woking for this. So I'm really stoke. I'm really excited to bedelivering. This content to people in need is theyre going through this. SoI'm really ris really aestatic about that, but I am missing that that humaninteraction- I was a static on Friday I have bought.I have two programs scheduled for September and I inquired to the to mycontect. Is this thing still happening number one and number two ar you goingto do it virtual? You guys still want to do it in person and they're, both inTampa same company and she shot in no bat. She saidImperson, please and I'm like. Ah thank you thank you. So I don't Rowe whot hupWat, the plamers will be social distancy or, if into wear a mask orwhat's going to be, but I can't tell you it made my entire weekend that that I'm able to do some wore trups inperson. I that's that's whyr. I I just flow yeah. Those Han those hands willbe flying I'll. Tell you that Whit's funny! You know, I, the feeling I gotwalking on football field. The lights...

...on Friday night did just that feeling.I have the same feeling when I walk into a meeting room at a hotel wher, I'mgoing to speak Werim. You know all im where I'm going tospeak. It's that same excitement. That is my new football film. That is my newarena, so that speaks to why I've missed this even more not being able toyou know have that rush that I have you know being able to dead that on yeah,it's not the same in front of a computer, all right, so hey son, ar we're going to get ready forthis two minutes. Are You readybuddy? Let's do it all right, put the CLOCK UP AL! I don't know when the last time youwere in a two minute drill Steve, but here we go all right. Would you ratherdrive a gas or electric car gas, Steve Fly or drive? You know, I'm a driver. I Love! That's why Idecompress. I love long drives, so that's my downtime, I'm going to seedrive all right. What's your pet peeve! Oh my goodness, oh my that there's alot of those o'm Italian forcing me to make a decision forcingme to have to decide now, I'm a I like to think things through. So that's abig pet peeve making me force forcing me to make a decision quit Wa. We talked pen sdate earlier your MountRushmor Penno state football. No, what your Mount Rushmore of penState Football! We! I don't know what that means. I'msorry! We dont like mout Washington mmtrsmor with the four presidents, whoare your for pen state people on that mountain. If there was a lone, oh, mygoodness, there's so many of them cur Waner, shame caln an maybe Shane CarlanShae Poland, Shan Canam, andhated, cold, Steve Botter Coldwyyo, like hot hot, has down favorite sports movie warrior it's a martial arts movie all right! What's your favorite! Whatdo you play now? Recreational Sport you play now? Would you consider Ai Tennis? Iactually start tennis with my girlfriend. If you could change places with oneperson in the world for one day who would that be live if it's, if it's notAli, could I say Winston churchfill yeah, perfect, awesome, good, all rightdown to three second Steve. This is your chance to make a fill goal. Wedrol the boll out field, who is your favorite quarterback quigerback gus lot to Fortuniti can believe it. I know Ian gon o PA state, so I don't know how I got so lucky ineber has man yeah there you go hey! That's our two minute draw. I reallyappreciate everybody joining me, Ay Steve! Thank you! So much everyone goout and and gets these books teve. Where can we go find your book in indefenseof adversity best peses? Is Amazon Paperback Hard Back Audio Bookand Ebook as well to all right? Seven? Where can we find you?How can people find you you know on social media or your company? I'meveryone on social me to feel for the Google Ma, my I'm outher on a publicdonate. I have a lot of great context: Content on Youtube, Lat, free contenton Youtube. If you want to reach me directly Steve at Gaba tortecom, mywebsites, my domain name, Gabi cortocom, my emails was Ti simple, Steve at Gabi.Tortocom awesome. Thanks for all thatinformation and and if you' like to find Steve, please go to Steve atgaatora com Dave. I really appreciate you being back on the podcast with mehow d you feel coming back a little choppy still getting used to thetechnical aspects, but it's great to be back great, great guest and Steve to atEl Yeah so DA. What do you think about you and I go do a little Moichai? I'm GOINGTO have to start stretchingnow to even come close to Mi getting in the Moitai Room. I think for you and Ihave teaking a little more TAI food. What do you think? Maybe we try that?First, all right! Everyone, thanks for joiningus on huddle up with Gus, you can find at said Huddl up with GSCOM and thenlook for us soon in the future on the sports circise presented by AMTV A MPtvcom. Thank you kid for joining ou on hot off with Gussin. We reallyappreciate you listenng,...

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