Huddle Up with Gus
Huddle Up with Gus

Episode · 1 year ago

Kendra Stabler Moyes

ABOUT THIS EPISODE

Joining me in the Huddle this week is Kendra Stabler Moyes. She is the daughter of Hall of Fame QB, Ken "The Snake" Stabler. We talk about what life was like growing up with a dad who was such a larger-than-life personality and player. 

Marnie Schneider Joins us as my Co-host and Kendra's friend. They talk about their relationship and the ties they both have with the Ronald McDonald House. Marnie has also written books about traveling to NFL cities called Football Freddie and Fumble the Dog. http://footballfreddie.com

Check out the Stabler Foundation. 

https://kenstabler.com/xoxo-stabler-foundation/

Hey everyone, Welcome to another episode of huddle up with Gus, I'm your host, former NFL quarterback Gus Frerotte and welcome to the new 16 31 digital new studio. You know, some people say no news is good news. Well I say to those people you've never read. 16 31 digital news dot com. Go to 16 31 digital news dot com to get your latest news, sports, music and entertainment and maybe even listen to your favorite podcast. Follow up with gusts. Check it out today at www. 16 31 digital news dot com. Welcome to what surely will be a doozy of a matchup brian here. Sports fans, whether your game is on the gridiron at the diamond or on the links, we can only say, yeah, welcome to this week's huddle up with gusts. 15 year NFL quarterback Gus parents, passion for sports has taken him on the field and behind the bench is playing for seven NFL franchises with 114 TVs under his belt. Gus knows who the players are and how the games are. One. Uh, it's not every day you get to hang out with an NFL quarterback up. Okay, sports fans from the decked out and plush 16 31 digital studios, it's kick off time. So snap your chin straps on and get ready to huddle up with us two left. Hey everyone, welcome to another episode of Head off with Gusts. I'm your host, Gus Frerotte, 15 year NFL quarterback and I'm really excited for today's guest. Her father was one of my all time favorite even though I was already and he was a lefty. So that will give you a little hint to who he is and, and uh, you know, I think that I want to thank everyone who is a part of my show. Um, 16 31 Digital News. I want to thank Sounder FM And especially want to thank Manscaped guys out there if you if you have a little trouble and you want to take care of yourself a little bit better. Go to Manscaped dot com. Use my code Gus Frerotte get 20% off and free shipping. We've had some incredible people go there and buy some product already so you might as well join them and go to Manscaped dot com. Use my code Gus Frerotte, that's F R E R Ott. Use all caps, save 20 and get free shipping. I'm also joined I guess my co host back today. So I'm joined by Marni again, marty, how are you doing? You know, Marnie has written football Freddie and fumbled the dog and uh you know, she, these books are incredible. She gives them out everywhere she can and she is doing an incredible job marty. How are you? I'm doing great, Thank you guys. Thanks for that. Nice introduction. I'm doing really well. Thank you. Well, I don't even think I'm doing you any justice because I think everything that you do, I mean, I see all over social media, you're on linkedin, you're doing everything, you're so involved in your community and your support, everyone. Um I think it's just amazing all the stuff that you actually do and besides your book, you also do your heavily involved in Ronald Mcdonald House. Tell us a little bit about that. So, the Ronald McDonald House is an incredible philanthropy that started in Philadelphia in 1974 when my grandfather Leonard Toes on the Philadelphia Eagles. And again, it's all about community and all about giving back and I think that that's one of the great things that Sports can really do. It can unite everybody, bring people together to truly make a difference. In the Ronald McDonald House in the past 47 years has had incredible growth. You know, amazing things have happened because people really need a place to go when they have a sick child, which is what the Ronald McDonald House offers to families all over the world and started in Philadelphia. But now it's international and so I'm very excited to be part of it. I serve on the board here in charlotte north Carolina and uh, try to do a lot of stuff outside of the Carolinas when I go to other cities and do things. So again, but it's all about...

...the volunteers. The one thing about the Ronald Mcdonald Houses that they really do rely heavily on their volunteers and so many people want to step up and volunteer. And I know that our guest today has, you know, definitely stepped up to the to the plate, although we're talking football too, and it's made a huge impact in her community with the Ronald Mcdonald House because her dad was a big advocate of it, like many professional athletes in the early seventies, they all really gravitated towards the Ronald Mcdonald House. And I know Kendra and her dad were really huge fans of it and continue to be. Yeah, I think the NFL does a great job of that, of helping their guys understand what community support is. When you have a big mouth piece, you can really help and go out and promote things that are, that means something special to you. And definitely the wrong Mcdonald House has meant something special to you because it started in Philly and it started with your grandfather. Uh so I think that is very special. um and I don't know if you know this, but in the fall, during the football season, I'm on the Zach Galp show on CBS sports radio every friday and I beat him this year and he had to donate um the winnings, well my winnings, I made him donated to the Ronald Mcdonald house this year, so uh Zach, we all thank you for that, so, uh you know, like you said, we have a great guest today, one of your friends, her father played in the NFL, but you know today is about her, we're gonna hear some amazing stories and I want to talk to Kendra stabler about, is it? It's moyes, right, Kendra stable boys, is that right? Exactly, So, um but I want to come from my perspective because you know, it's funny is my daughter uh kind of, I'm sure you guys are in the same shoes right? Like I couldn't take her in the locker room but I could take my son's in, right, I can do a lot of things with her, but I couldn't take her a lot of places that I could take other people. So for you, tell me about your earliest memory Kendra of like that moment of sports that you had and why how you fell in love with it. Gosh, my earliest memory. So it was pretty young. I was seven when he won the Super Bowl, I was a sophomore in high school, I was 15 when he retired, so pretty much my whole life was either wake up on christmas and go to a game and listen to people yell that your dad is throwing too many interceptions or one of the biggest memories when I realized how much of an impact he had on people was when Dorothy Hamill came for the ice capades in Oakland and my dad took me and we are in the front rows right after he won the Super Bowl, so I'm seven and they announced that he's there, so every dad that took their daughter to see Dorothy Hammel all of a sudden formed a line to get autographs and so I'm trying to bob my head back and forth to watch my idol and while these men were getting my dad's autograph um and he would, he took so much time with every single person that came up to him and I just watched how he treated everybody the same, whether you were the president or the janitor, you were equal to him. So um that was probably my biggest memory and then after he passed uh just worldwide, the impact of people reaching out to my family was pretty mind blowing. Yeah, yeah, I could imagine while he was a Hall of Famer, he was an incredible player. We all knew him as the snake um and I always wanted to find out like if you like did you my kids call me call kind of nicknames, right, They have all kind of nicknames for me, so what did you, what was your nickname for your dad? It was just daddy, he was bad, but my, I have twin boys and um they were my dad's only grandchildren and so he was papa snake and they were the grand...

...snakes, so as papa snake and the grand snakes, that's awesome and that, I love that. So what about you? Did you play sports growing up? It didn't play tennis. Um Snow ski and scuba dive and all that stuff. I never really had an interest in football. I didn't really understand it until I got older and when I had boys is when I really truly started to love the sport, a big college football fan. Um I roll tide and so that's my team. Um But yeah I've always been super athletic. Um really active. My dad lived on the water so we are always on the boat and fishing and snow ski and all that. Good stuff, awesome, awesome. Yeah I think it's great you know and then you know Marnie you and marty we all have like these crazy things in common because you and marty come from parents who were in the NFL, I was in there and I have daughters who were in there who are kind of seeing all the same things, right? She's she's been through all that where We dragged her around everywhere. I played for seven teams and she, they went everywhere with us, in, in hotel rooms, to apartments and you just go everywhere. So it's interesting, I want to hear from Marnie about that side and how you guys feel like um that's very similar for you. Yeah, well, first of all, definitely the opportunity to and I know Kendra will agree like we were so fortunate to get to go to places and see things from a different level uh just traveling around in the way that people would embrace her dad. Then suddenly I know people would be nice to my grandfather, so they wanted to be nice to me and Kendra, I'm trying to wear as close to an Alabama roll time, but it happens to be my kids old sweatshirt from oaks christian or Westlake, but he was a little bit of roll time. I do. A surprise surprise, I do not have any Oakland raider gear, although our mutual friend Rod Martin probably would have stepped up and sent me something happily if I would have put it on. Absolutely, I decided I was gonna bother him for that right now. So I went with some, you know what? Yeah, and I think, you know when people like Kendra was saying that when she went to the Ice Capades and everybody wanted to see her dad that what it does do is it gives the child or the grandchild of that person an opportunity then to maybe get a little bit of the royal treatment in a different way. So I know that I got to see a lot of cool things when I would be traveling around things that I might not have seen ordinarily, but even regardless of that, just getting to leave philadelphia and going and traveling, like the way that we did was such a unique, wonderful experience, which really is why I ended up writing all my books and because I wanted to share the, you know, all the places that I went and I think that Kendra and I can relate to one another because when you grow up in a household where your parents, your, my mom certainly similar to Kendra's dad and then your grandparents are doing unique jobs. It is uh it does lend itself to some questions like, well do they like me or do they like my parents or do they like this cool thing that my parents do and which might not even be cool to us. Like I actually didn't even realize to kind of the level, I mean, I was pretty young too when my grandfather was really, you know, definitely dealing in major football stuff, I didn't even realize that that was kind of a unique thing. It was like, okay, well you go to work with your parents or your grandparents and their work happens to be going to a football game on a sunday, right? Yeah. It's very different. It's yeah. And like you said, you don't know if people really want to be your friend and or as a female, if a guy's dating you because they want to meet your dad or get tickets to a game back. Many times people ask you for tickets, right? Totally. I don't even, I don't even...

...know what, I don't even know what that would be like to, you know, it's like to ask somebody to be that rude to like, can you get me tickets to something? I would never even think about that. Just reached out to me on twitter, just last week, A big fan of your dad's blah blah blah. Um My son's getting married would love to go to a Raiders game, can you get four tickets for us? I was like I can't even get tickets. Yeah it doesn't it doesn't work like that, I can't even get tickets so that all the teams, you know it just doesn't, the NFL doesn't work that way. But people think it does, you know, and so many people loved your dad. So what was it like for you when you would sit in the stands and you know as a kid, you don't really understand everything that's going on and then you would hear these people like my daughter would say dad that people who are really angry at you and I'm like yeah it's just part it's just a game but people take it really serious and you know, you leave the white lines and you go back and you'd be normal again, but when you're in those white lines, there's a microscope on you. Yeah, absolutely. And I don't know about your daughter's, but it doesn't hurt your feelings because that's that's your dad and you don't want anybody saying anything bad about your dad. Obviously he had super successful years with the Raiders. And you know, now there's these crazy, secluded, sweet. So you're not intermingle with everybody, but back then you're just right next to the fans, the wife section and family sections would be right next to your average season ticket holder. And so I didn't really notice anything with the Raiders. And it was always so great. My dad was always the last person out of the locker room because he would take time you could go as a fan in the tunnel and just wait for the players to come out and so my dad would sit and talk to every single person, we're like okay home, I want to go home. Um and now you know that I'm older, I appreciate that aspect and how how he treated people but When he was with the Saints they were the 8s and they were bags over their heads and so uh that would be pretty difficult because people would get pretty rowdy and they'd be screaming and I just you know the wives would be next to you showing off what they got for christmas and then you've got the guys yelling snake sucks, you know, So that was that was pretty difficult. Yeah that's hard. Um I played with a hall of Famer who played with your dad, Morten Andersen and so morton when he came on he and I have been friends for a long time and when he came on he was telling me a story about your dad, he said here I am a rookie, right, I just beat out this this amazing kicker to to win the job and you know it's I forget what game it was but uh your dad goes on this amazing drive at the end of the game, leads them down the field and he just walks up to morton and says take us home, son, take his home and so important, loved that story. He told me, he said that was like his favorite story that he told me about. Your dad was like there he is like I'm nervous, you know, he's like this kicker and all I gotta do is kick the ball and he goes, I watched your dad just take him down the field and he comes right up to me. He goes, take us home. So and he's like all of a sudden there's even more pressure on me. He was I loved him. He was a finalist when my dad was for the Hall of Fame and I was so happy that he got in the following year, so deserving. But he told me a little bit more r rated story. Yeah, well, he couldn't tell, I told him, I said we have to keep it down martin a little bit. Uh it was funny and but yes, but Kendra, I mean how do you, I remember when you were, you know, just saying about how it makes you sad about your dad, when people and I would be going to school on monday after a loss and I mean wanting to just cry, I would be, it was horrible. I mean, I really hated going to school after the Eagles would lose,...

...which was a lot. So I I mean I probably, you know needed to repeat a couple grades because they want a school that I missed would have been uh was definitely just off those things. People don't have any. It's like the same people that asked for tickets are the same people that are like the Eagles suck or your dad sucks or they're terrible. I mean it's just unreal. And I mean, so how okay, so obviously you grow up your, you know, your mom is there and your dad is there. What what kind of advice did your dad and your mom also give you to get through some hard times because regardless of what it is, kids go through some tough times. So like how would you then um uh advise other parents about like, you know, telling their Children just, they can have to get through some rough days. It stopped. And that was the one thing about my dad is that was his motto in life. I mean he said I lived my life at third and long my entire life, so he would get knocked down and you always get back up and you just can't complain and you just keep powering through. And so my parents divorced and I was really young um and my name is so similar to my father, so was Kendra stabler and I came home. I uh, some boys had asked for autographs, so I was visiting my dad, think he's with the oilers at the time, bring home the oilers like autographed by by seven, give them to him at school, I think I'm in sixth grade, seventh grade and the boat, one of the boys stood up in front of the whole class and dad sucks and ripped it in half. And so I literally went home crying and I said, I'm changing my last name. I don't, I don't want this last name anymore. And my mom's like, no, you're going to be really proud to have that last name so you need to just ignore it rise above it. Um, and then I wish I did. So just watching my dad and all the obstacles he faced in his life. Yeah. Just you just never give up and you just rise above. Always rise above. Always gonna be doesn't mean people out there. Yeah. And that's what I like football too. Is that like it really is like life a game of inches, which is what I always tell my kids. And like the thing about football, which I compared to life is that you get more chances to get another four chances and unless you really blow it in a 60 minute game, you're probably going to get another four chances just in life unless you really blow it in life, you're gonna get chances to keep going into doing things, into reinventing and to being third and long and making things happen, You know? So football, to me really is like, you know, it's just such a great sport lessons. Absolutes 100%. So when you were, what did you, um, when you were in high school and things, uh, was your dad heavily involved in everything that you were doing? So my dad, I kind of grew up with my dad, um, he was a little bit of a party animal and busy and, but he was an amazing dad and I can't say enough things about him, but um, he became super involved when he retired, so I was probably a junior in high school and then he went into commentating, I traveled everywhere I go to any engagement and he's speaking that, uh, games, um, he do tv shows or whatever, so we spent a ton of time together after his career and, and he always had so much guilt. He'd always be like, I feel so bad for not being around as much as I should have and I'm like, you're fine dad. I mean, we have a great relationship and he really amazing relationship with my boys, which made me even happier. Um, yeah, so he was super involved and he would come to Arizona, he ended up moving to Arizona where we live to be closer to me and my boys. Before then he would travel and come to Arizona at least three or four days or three or 4 times a year and he would go to their elementary school and he was so cute, he would sit at the lunch table with all these little 1st and 2nd graders and he'd have his rings on and all these kids are like big shiny rings and you take them off and the kids will be passing this super bowl ring and his...

Alabama national championship ring around and he'd go to the playground, throw the ball with him and super super involved. If there was an event or um a fundraiser, he was the first person to give or to be like a, he would go and EMC it and yeah, he was super great that way. Yeah, he had such talent on and off the field and I think that, that that showed and you know that was one of the reasons he went to Alabama, you didn't go to Alabama if you didn't have incredible talent, right? You know, you you had to be one of the best in the country. Um so you know it's kind of funny like my daughter has been in school and we don't get a chance to, she's so busy all the time, they don't get a chance to tell her. And she never really asked, did you ask your dad, like some of his stories that you couldn't see on ESPN or you know the NFL, you know, because there are like stories that we have that because we're with people every day in the locker room and things just happen and there are incredible stories that happened that nobody would know about. He was an incredible storyteller and he loved to reminisce and he, he would remember like how many blades of grass were in a certain play like it was crazy his memory. Um It yeah it was it was pretty interesting. He um he would I would always ask him would be laying around watching tv and I said you know do you wish you would have played baseball because my dad was drafted by the Yankees and the Pirates and I can't remember else but at a high school baseball was his first true love and to remain that way until he passed he loved baseball and so he said I do I always wonder what would have happened because you know Jackson did it. I mean he could have tried it. So um I think things like that he would talk about. I'm so sorry there's a bird just flew in my house. Sorry. No. Yeah that's good though that I think that's good luck I think. Yeah. Yeah your dad wants to come in and you know. Right. Right. Well there is a thing with you know with the spirit world that they talk a lot about birds that you know when you see a certain type of bird and things like that. That that that means there present with you. So he's hanging out with us. Yeah he is. So what was that like? So you know he had a lot of um I think that he just had so many friends. It seemed like he was that type of guy because I've been in the NFL and you know I have a lot of friends but I've moved a lot of places and you keep friends lose friends and you try and stay in contact with them. But it seems like you talked about before when when your dag on the Hall of Fame uh you know he passed before that, but there's so many people that reached out to you, he just seemed like that guy, like everybody wanted to be around him, He was that guy and that's when I was backstage at the Hall of Fame after the unveiling of the bust. Um firstly I had every single Hall of Fame player walking up to me and wasn't saying, you know what a great player he was, it was his presence and the person he was off the field. And so that was when we were in the stands, when Brett Farve gave his speech that blew all of our minds when he said he wanted to be my dad and and the impact that my dad had on him. Um he was, he never met a stranger, he had so many friends and like I said earlier, it didn't matter if you were an athlete that played with him or if you were the guy sweeping the floors in the airport like he just he just had he just had such magnetism and people loved being around him and he treated everybody like they had known him forever. And that was another thing he would remember people's names that like aunt mary's cousin that he never had met, but somebody got an autograph from him and he would remember that. And so yeah, he was truly special. Like...

...there's nobody like him. It's pretty amazing. Yeah. No I love that that you know um you know steve Young was like that I met steve Young one time he met like yeah, he probably knew who I was just because we've played against each other. But my family, my kids, he he met them one time maybe five years before he knew all their names and remember everyone so impressive. Do you do that? Maybe that's why you're so good. Right. I'm the worst. I am absolutely worst. Yeah. So I, I did not get that trait from my dad. Yeah, that's a hard trade. Like I wish I had that trade. I didn't have a great coaches, wish I had that trade as well, but I didn't have it. Where did you play college? I went to the University of Tulsa. So I went from Pittsburgh to Oklahoma, which was a big life change for me yet. Yeah, it was like the first time I really kind of understood what a cowboy was when I went to Oakland was like the opposite for my dad. He went from Alabama and you know, Letterman's jacket to Oakland and he had chops and hanging out with the Hells Angels. Yeah, I'm sure, I'm sure he found the good, good uh you know, like when I went with, when I played for Washington, my rookie year, all the hogs that were still there, all the linemen, they took me to this little bar hole in the wall bar that had, it was like the Hells Angels and all, you know what I mean? Like they took me in there and I felt like, I don't know if I should be in here, but I'm with these guys. I don't okay, right? Like, I feel like your dad would have found that bar and uh, you know, because those places, you just feel like sometimes it's just you walk in, you're like, man, it just feels good to be in here. Absolutely. Um, another funny story that my dad never told me that. So Freddie Biletnikoff and I were just hanging out waiting for the Hall of Fame parade and I was like Freddie, did you really did you? My dad really smoke cigarettes on the sidelines and he goes, oh I did, but your dad eat hot dogs? And I was like, ok, interesting. Um but he said, you know, they both went through quite a few marriages and so they were roommates and they lived together in Oakland and most of those guys had jobs in the off season. And so my dad and Freddie like struck up a deal with a car dealership In Oakland and I don't even know what the cars were, but my dad used to drive my mom nuts because she loved being in San Francisco in the 70s, but he would hightail it back to Alabama as soon as the season was over, he was just a hometown guy and loved mama, so he would take these cars that and drive from California and Alabama, You're not really not supposed to put putting a bunch of miles on these cars, dealership, owner gave them to use and Freddie is smoking his three packs a day inside the car. So it came time to turn in the cars and get new ones. So, owner calls up friday and he was like, hey, I can't get ahold of snake, I need to get the car back, I need to get your car back. Um, he's like, well, he's in Alabama and he's like, what, what's he doing in Alabama with my car, you know, looking out and then Freddy turns his, it smells like an ashtray. They both get just reamed when they walk into this dealership and so they look at each other like, do we get another car? And they're like, no, get out of here. So they, next block struck up another deal and drove away in their cars. Good stories like that. That's awesome. Those are those are those are great stories, you know, and I'm sure he has a story after story with all those guys he played with on the Raiders. So many great stories and they all remained so close. Like that was really so special. That team that 70 Raiders, they, yeah, they're all still so close. Um you know, art show I had dinner with shortly after my dad passed and he said, uh you know, we would do anything. We would, if your dad said to jump off a cliff would jump off with like he was the guy and he said, uh you know as they went...

...to a bar after every game and they walked through a bar and a racial slur was thrown at art and Arts obviously a lot bigger than my dad. But my dad heard it and art is really classy man and he kind of shrugged it off, walked past the man and my dad is not like a fighter but walked up to the guy and just knocked him out. He was that protective of his, his friends and his teammates. And um, he was like, I'll never forget that. And you know, they scrapped and then left the bar. But um, they all, yeah, they all were so close Willie Brown and Phil billy piano Freddy and they always show up to each other's charity events and just so supportive and they still like that today. I feel like when you are on a team that goes to the Super Bowl and you've had multiple playoff experiences, it's not because there's like just incredible talent on the team. It's because that there's just such a connection between all the guys and you hear that story, a lot about people that have played on super bowls together that they have this incredible connection and because I think it just gets them through those moments that are we going to win? Are we going to lose? And that, that, that trust in each other just pushes them over the top? Yeah, it's really special. I remember when Jack Tatum had just lost his leg to diabetes and I think it was six months later he shows up my dad's golf tournament Alabama. My dad, like marty said earlier, he used to do a celebrity golf tournament every year and raise money. He put the first model with Donald House in mobile Alabama. And so, and then he would do a lot for the Alabama Children's hospitals. But you know, Jack Tatum shows up in Alabama with, you know, half his leg missing and, but that's, you know, that's what they did for each other, you know, really amazing. Uh, David hum, who is my dad's back up, wrote me at least at least every week, he would send me letters and he would call me um just checking in on me and he just said, you know, how much my dad meant to him and he goes, he would drive me nuts because, you know, we would be down and he had blood coming out of his ear and his nose. And so I put the clipboard down thinking, here's my chance, I'm gonna go in and win the game. And your dad would look at me and say, you're not going in and go in there and he'd win the game, you know, he was like, but yeah, just really, really special guys are like a bunch of uncles. Yeah, I can imagine that's what, you know, but also that's what's so great and gus and I spoke about this for a few minutes that your dad's friends are now your friends and that is a great gift. Like a lot of my grandfather and my mom's friends and they have become my friends and like, I'm so grateful for that. Obviously they loved your dad and they want to look after you like you were just saying. And that was like a perfect example of what I was asking about, how many of you know, of your dad's friends are now the Kendra, you know the Kendra friends and many and it's so many things to be able to to share that with your own Children. Oh, yeah, yeah. And they all, you know, they send emails and texts and but they always ask about the grand sneaks and they, my boys went back to the last home Raiders game before they went to Vegas and um and all the guys were there and they took such good care of the boys. And it is, it's it's so special. It's so nice that you have those guys in your in your back pocket. Yeah. And I've talked to guys who played for the Raiders. I never got to play for the Raiders, but um, it's just such a family organization. Absolutely. The Davis family has done an incredible job keeping it that way. Yeah, and it's been amazing you hear these stories from all I've been reviewed guys that have played for the Raiders and, and it's just, they talk about How that happens no matter if you were there one...

...week or you know, 20 years, they treat you the same. You get, you get things in the mail from them, they make you a part of it. And I can say that not every team does that and yeah, and there are some teams that are really good about it and sometimes it just, it doesn't matter. Yeah, definitely. They definitely, yeah, they, they make sure that everybody stays really close it and then I in that I've become so close with most of the kids and so like Willie Brown and I's daughter, um Antoinette and then fills daughter Andrea, we're all planning to do a big reunion when we can go to a Raiders game in Vegas and um, yeah, it's super fun. Like it's definitely, it's a whole another extension of family. Yeah. That's amazing. Also Kendra, that you mentioned that people don't realize that in the seventies professional athletes, they had two jobs. Three. Like, I mean, I know my grandfather would say like, you know that that stan Walters who was the center for the Eagles. He was an accountant during the off season. He was going to retire. And my grandfather, he's like, Leonard, I'm going to retire. I just got your accounting all the time. You make like 50 grand a year. He's like, all right, I'll triple that. You're not you can't retire from being a center. We need you people had more than what you know, they were they were car dealers or whatever. We're not just living off their big fancy NFL salaries which now they might be able to go back then. They all had two or three jobs always work. It was for the love of the game. Yeah. Played because they loved that game, definitely. Yeah, they definitely did. So, I mean, I can't imagine a professional football player not being like, all right season's over. We're going to go all right, go Yeah, well yeah, you got to do that. And you know the way that guys were hit and you know, they talk about how the game has changed. 12 changed for a lot of reasons, like the way you just talked about your dad be bleeding and his nose is bleeding. Like today, they probably wouldn't let you come back. Like, you know, there's just there's just different, it's a different attitude and mentality in the NFL today. Yeah, my dad played in the same shoulder pads, his entire career in the NFL and I have them in my possession and you should see these things that they came from a kicker that was leaving. And my dad shows up in Oakland, he was like, oh, I gotta get my own paths. And he was like, here you can use these, I'm leaving. And they were like the teeniest finished, no protection. And my dad was when he was like, OK. And he just played in that then played in the same helmet. So I haven't had that helmet as well. And it's got, you can see a little bit of oilers blue, you can see some Saints colours in there. It's like, it's so, it's like a little tiny strap of leather in there and it's just crazy. I'm like, you played 15 years in that stuff. Yeah. Your your dad was definitely a very tough hey everyone uh we are talking with Kendra Sailor Boys and we're here with Marnie and she has written many books and we are going to take a quick break. We're gonna come back and find out what's going on now in Kendra's life and talk to marty a little bit more. So, uh, we're gonna take a quick break at don't forget to go to manscaped dot com and check us out. Yeah. Mhm. Hey, head off with us listeners. Manscaped. Well, they sent me uh they hooked me up with a bunch of tools and formulations for their package three point oh kit. Uh so, you know, I want to show you guys what's in the perfect package, right? We all think we got a perfect package, but they sent me the...

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...was so great. Yeah, you had to experience it because he would have brought his own charm and style and everything to that event. Did a great job carrying his legacy and you do that with all of the things that you're involved in between the Foundation and the animal rescues that you do in all these amazing things. Ronald Mcdonald House. I know that there's in addition to your dad being a huge supporter in Alabama, uh, you have a beautiful room at the house Arizona that I know you're very proud of and you can tell everybody that your books are sitting in. Yeah, really cool. They have a program, adopt a room and so we adopted a room and his name and so many people came together to make it super crazy. Cool. It's kind of half Alabama, half Raiders. Um, lot of hounds tooth, but there's pictures of him all over this room, it's called the ken stabler room and so there's people staying in there and I stay in touch with them and they said, you know, everyone's favorite room, like so many people have, has said what a great place it is and it was such a labor of love, it was so great to do and, and we put all of Marnie's books on a bookshelf in there for the kids and yeah, it was super great. I would love to do one in every house. It would be so great. Yeah, that, that would be great. I think it's, it's amazing what you to do for that and how much support that you give the Ronald Mcdonald house because it is hard for so many families out there, especially after 2020. I mean it's been difficult for so many people and I think that uh it's amazing that, you know, you talk about and you got kind of cheerful about your dad, but I wonder if he would have gotten tearful up there, right? Because he was such a tough guy. And like for me, emotionally, I cry all the time. Like it's just like I coached kids in high school when they were graduate and I'm like, you know, there's this kid Jack who I was really close to. He didn't play a lot, but he was just he just loved the game and he, you know, we had a connection and when he was leaving, he said this nice speech about me and I'm like, I'm emotional, right? And that's kind of how it goes. But but I was wondering about your dad, like it would have been, you know, Yeah, he was so tough, so private. He I think I've only seen him cry once in my whole life and that was at my wedding right before he was about to walk me down the aisle and he looked at me and he had a little tear and I was like that are you crying? He's like no, you know what I mean? Like wiped and then we walked down the aisle. Um So yeah, I don't think he would have been um emotional, but I think he would have given the most epic speech. Like it would have been it would have the the house would have come down on that. It would have been pretty cool. Who would have been his idol? Does he ever tell you who his fate like growing up, who was his favorite athlete? Like who did he love watching? So he loved, Gosh there was so many. He was such a huge baseball guy, huge baseball. Um, but he was a bigger, um, boxing fan. Really. Yeah, he loved Ali, um, huge sugar ray. He just, yeah, he loved boxing, loved Nascar. Um, but we looked up to, um, was the most, was his coaches. Uh, coach Bryant really shaped him and molded him. He described him as like the grandfather, you never wanted to disappoint bum phillips. He, um, the same. And then he described Coach Madden as like your buddy, your best friend and that's what they're there. They were so close coach called me after my dad and I think he was crying harder than I was and uh, they had such a special, special relationship. It was really cool. And the fact that Coach Madden let my dad calls his own plays and, and just let those guys be them and, and you didn't...

...want to disappoint them and so that they did, that they performed because they didn't want to disappoint. So idle wise. I mean, I think it's definitely his coaches. Yeah, that's awesome. That. Well, I mean they play such a big role in your life. I mean most of us remember our first coach that we've ever had because you know, when you're young, you're so impressionable and that's why I went like for me, I'm trying to create the certified coaching program so that, that coaches have to understand that what you do when we're young, when people are young boys and girls can change the way they see sports. So I didn't know you were doing that. That is so important because I just know some of the coaches that my boys had growing up and and how irritated my dad would be at some things and then knowing he said, you know, that that's a great coach right there and so that is so important. His high school coach and he stayed close with recently passed away coach. Ivan jones um, was a huge, huge part of his life and kept him out of trouble because my dad was quite the rebel got kicked off. Yes, every team he was on, I think rebels and understand that he pushed the envelope a little bit. So yeah, that those guys really kept my dad going, you know, and it's funny like it just makes me think of like these movies back in, you know, like he, he could have been this like iconic movie star. I feel like if he didn't play football like one of those guys that, that there was such a love hate relationship like you talk about like he's such a rebel but everybody loved them totally, totally. There's some people that are trying to get a a film done on him because his life was I mean just it's so it's such an interesting story and he was so iconic and and and just and so real at the same time he faced challenges that everybody else does and how he got through them and the partying, the du es the divorces, but you know the ups and downs of football and just you know, he came from nothing and an educated family and just yeah super, super interesting. Well because he has all those things that like everybody can relate to, it's like people can relate to being you know to wanting to be the big star but that all of that stuff that goes along with it whether it's the lifestyle, the playboy lifestyle, the wayne, the men wanted to be the guy that women wanted to be with him. I mean, anyway, I mean, I know that, that like all of those things and they're so interesting because it's aspirational, but yeah, Oh no, wait. That guys like me, he's just like me, he can throw a football better than anybody else like ever. So that's like, makes it so interesting as a man or as a person because there is that like relatable factor, which is what we want in all of our heroes. I mean, they always say you don't meet your heroes, Like meeting your dad would not be a disappointment for 99.9% of the people meeting, ken, stabler would be like, oh my gosh, it's even better than I thought. That's what most people tell me. There's a, like a commemorative page. It's on facebook, I think it has like five or 6000, but every day they're posting and they still, they have that same theme that same like when I met him, um and how, how he made them feel and or when you were watching him, you knew the game was never over that stuff like Yeah. You know, it's funny Kendra I try to think of him like, in today's sense, right? With social media and all the ways. Well, I'm, but what I'm saying is like, we still knew a lot about him. People still knew a lot about him. Even without social media, like, he was just that figure that people talked about, they wanted to know about. And I couldn't imagine like his life like now with like, Tic Tac and everything, like how would have been like, he would have just, he would...

...have been, he would have had the greatest N. F. T. Ever. Like, like ken Stadler's N. F. T. You know what I mean? Just it would have just been one of these amazing pictures that millions of people would want to own. Like, his social media would have been off the charts. You would have been crazy. He got really into it too. He had a facebook and he had a twitter and I kept up with them for a little bit and then we kind of just some other guys like are handling it now, but he loved it. He's like, okay, let's post today or if somebody passed away or if my boys had a good game, but he was like super into it. So he would have, yeah, he would have been all over it. He would have done a good job with it. Oh, I know. He would have, you know, I could have just imagined some of his like little post like facebook live like what we're going to see from Candide. You would have been as his daughter. Like I don't want to see any of that. No, that's why as a daughter, I'm really glad you didn't have social media, but it would have been cool. You just have to rely on fred Biletnikoff stories and some other people so weird Anderson more. Yeah, they've all got such good stories. So marty was telling me about you guys have established a foundation in your dad's name. So my dad always had one. Um he always so philanthropic his entire life. I mean even with the Raiders, he would go to the Oakland Children's Hospital and visit the kids. So that was super important to him to always give back and he always raised me to do the same. And so my dad's girlfriend, partner like last 16 years of his life, true love of his life, kim, They really did quite a lot of work the last 10, 15 years of his life. And so she and I continued on because we knew he would want to, that's you. Um he was focused on Ronald Mcdonald House and Children's charities and we, after the cT diagnosis, we changed our focus to sports related head trauma and just bringing awareness to that, trying to make the game safer for the younger boys um and girls. Um so we are we're still active with that and obviously the last year and a half, we haven't done much, but we will start ramping up again. Um Yeah, I will continue as long as I can because it was so important to him. Yeah, it was. And and you also have is it Exo Exo Foundation? Yeah, so that's it. The Exo exo, stabler foundation was his which is still his but we continue with that. Okay, that's that's the thing when I was asking marty if there were two different or if they were the same. Yeah, it's always been that one and that's always been what he has has had and I had the pleasure to meet kim and uh she really is, I could see why your dad would have wanted her as his last, you know as his last hurrah. Yeah, she was incredible. She's an incredible, yeah, I mean we are very close but she's an incredible woman, she's in Mississippi try to see each other a lot more after this crazy year. But yeah, she's she kept him going, she kept him working, you know my dad was just like I don't want and she's like no you need to get out there and so she she makes stuff happen, She's a go getter. Yeah, that's awesome. And that's another great gift that your dad gave you is having a relationship with the love of his life. Those are things that, I mean bringing in all these great adult football players and men into your life is terrific, but also handing his daughter a nice lady that she has, you know, cherish moments to be like, oh dad, you remember then when he did that and and really make you know, let you know that you know your importance in his life. Those are things that really, truly I think are great gifts that your dad present. She was definitely like nervous. I mean that would be really hard. And so um...

I've been around a lot of girlfriends and wives of my dad. Um and she and I just, and I hit it off right away and I knew what a true gem. She was like right from the get go. My boys love her. My husband loves her. She'll be part of our family forever. She has All right. So what about all the memorable Candra? Because we got a little tease of it. So people always ask me that like you have a lot of memorabilia and like not have like a sweatshirt that my granny or when he gave me a bike ride. Same. I mean, my boys have a lot. So we have the Hitchcock belt. Um which my dad was the last recipient of the Hitchcock belt. I'm not sure if you are the Hickok Hickok belt. Hickok said that wrong. Um goes to the athlete of the year. We have that. Um Then there's been so Lombardi trophy. Um He left my boys the Super Bowl ring in the national championship for Alabama. Um a couple jerseys but that's about it. Mostly just like family photos and um just everyday stuff that doesn't have to do with football. So do your are your sons playing football? They played all through high school. They played young. Um And then stopped. My dad just I wasn't really into them playing he was really worried about them I think because he knew there was so much going on that he hid from us now knowing what was going on. He really worried about them. So I think they also they lived with him for a year when he moved to Arizona. They aren't driving so we thought it would be really a great opportunity. He got a house right near their high school and he would drive them to five a.m. Practices and he would make them smoothies and do their laundry and like have their socks full. That he was a neat freak completely. O. C. D. Everything was perfect. He would like to be in a hotel. He would make the bed before I even put a foot out of the bed like crazy clean guy. So he played mr mom to my boys. Um And and because of that so I remember saying to my husband a few times we would go to Alabama games or raider games and maybe telling, he always telling stories and he started repeating his stories quite a bit. And I turned my benefits from the west coast and said he goes that's a southern thing and I go no it's not a southern thing that kind of just brushed it off and that was around probably Maybe 2010. Yeah and then um my boys were like you know what papa is becoming a really bad driver because they were driving and I was like well he's stopping at green lights he's going at red lights. He is getting confused at stop signs. And so we're like and I called kim and I'm like there's there's something going on and I didn't know at the time but my dad was battling prostate cancer and hiding it. He didn't he never wanted anybody to worry about him. That was one thing that Coach Madden told us is my dad would wait till everybody left to get treated by the trainer. He just he didn't want his teammates to see him getting treated. He just was he just didn't want anybody to worry. He didn't want anybody to fuss or. So it didn't surprise me that he hid that. But then when the C. T. Started to get pretty bad is when the colon cancer hit. And so unfortunately or fortunately the cancer took him before c to eat it. But it was getting progressively worse. He wasn't sitting in a closed dark room and depressed but the tinnitus was so bad you know he would grind his teeth from the headaches that were so severe that he broke a bridge in his mouth. And uh and it was and he was just about to get his knees done. He was bone on bone. So I mean like when you said he's tough he I don't know a tougher man. Yeah and so um back to the boys yeah I...

...think when they saw that and they were like you know what so they're staying um one wants to be a coach and he's coaching at a high school now and he is kind of looking into scouting and so um they just graduated today so we'll see what happens. And then my other son graduated in the business school of business law degree. So they love the sport, but they're both find that it ended when it did right. Yeah, I think my sons in the same way like they played, my son Gunnar had a, they both had a couple concussions and you know, my son Gunnar went on and played a few years in college and just said dad, it's too much. I just rather go to school and be a kid. I'm like, hey, I get it, it's a lot of work, it's not easy, you know, and my son game and we played through high school. So it is, it is, it is hard and you have to have a drive for it and you know, and then when you do see people that have been injured or hurt from it, it is it makes it tougher. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. One of my boys had a pretty bad concussion. He is still not the same, it's gotten a lot better but you know that's been five years and so yeah, I think that really kind of sealed the deal too. Yeah, that makes it tough, that makes it love it. We still watch it, we want, you know, we're still big, big, big football, you um and your family and you know, your dad just created such a legacy at the Raiders at Alabama everywhere he's been. I mean yeah, there are things that your dad has done in his life that he probably, you know like you said he was a rebel but from the standpoint of who he was on the field and the people in the locker room and how people loved him, you know that he was just a shining light when he walked in. So thank you so much for sharing his story with us today because I, I always loved your father. I mean I played a long time, played the same position and it's just one of those guys that they ask you why, you know, you can be so tough and get up. It's because of people like your dad just did it before us and you want to be like that. That's really cool. Thank you, definitely. You know Kendra, because so many people, I think even if they're not football fans, here's what the thing about your dad, they might not have ever watched football, but you know what, you know who they will say is your favorite player can, right? So raider, like no idea, but that's like the kind of legend and legacy that your dad created, which is so interesting and or also people that might not even like the Raiders were just like the stock and the kind of guy that he was that you know that seventies rock and roll dude who could just like your, take my hot dog, I got this or whatever my here is like oh my hot dog, I got it. Yeah, that was a common theme. Yeah. I mean all the players that I've talked to and coach Madden, but they just like your dad was just nothing ruffled his feathers. Like you just was so cool all the time where like do you ever just get freaked out? Like what is going on? They would like shake him. He was, he was such a cool cat and I still see on twitter um hate the Raiders but love the snake. Hate the Raiders, but love the snake. Yeah, you see that a lot, definitely. He always could grow a great moustache. A lot of guys can, can everyone, You can always just go. I think all the cool guys had awesome moustache is that's for sure tying for your manscaped promo. Yeah, he could have definitely use the man scape. You definitely loved it. All right. Hey Kendrick. For fans, everybody listens how they can find you and how they can check you guys out. I think it's ken stabler dot com backslash. Exo exo dash state dash foundation. So tell them how they can follow you may be uh send you a great note about your dad, Kendra stabler. I think I'm on twitter Kendra...

...12, instagram, um great number. I didn't write my favorite number. Um, And then my boys were 12 and 16 because he was 16 with the Saints. Um, and everybody is always like, why do you take 16? And of course that's my dad, somebody had 12, wasn't even like a main player and he was like, I always do 16 and it was also George Blanda, who was another, like you said, who was his idol, he really looked up to George Blanda. Um so yeah, twitter, um, Kendra stabler and then the Foundation has um an instagram and facebook and twitter and it's the exo, Exo stabler foundation, awesome, awesome marty let everybody know how they can find you and share what you're doing, They can find, thank you, they can find me on Instagram. I'm Marnie Schneider one because they're already apparently marty Snider, so I have your number one, I'm on twitter as well, Marnie Schneider, just take the E out and on facebook, just Marnie Schneider or they can find me through you or Kendra, because you guys are definitely a very for each other. Well, yes, you can also find you guys sometimes at the Ronald Mcdonald house and you can check out Marnie's great books for everyone Really. You want to go to a town and find out where to go when you get off the plane, Read the book, right, Thank you guys for all ages. Not just kids, but football fumbled the dog. Game day in the USa. So we're on number eight. Right now on game day in Tampa, we have philadelphia, Atlanta, Chicago, Green Day, Dallas Pittsburgh and the Carolinas. Tampa bay is coming up and you need to do Arizona so you can come hang out with me. No, no. Yeah. Right. Well, Kendra, we're gonna work on it together for sure. Like what? Yeah. And then you guys will have to go to the Raiders came together in Vegas and do that one like that. Yeah. That want to be more like adult book, I think Marnie and Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That might be a dangerous book. Yeah, exactly. I don't know. You'd have to talk to my wife. Maybe you should just take you. Exactly. Exactly. Annie, Annie would love it. But yeah, we'll drag her around around. I think I'm just there to drive the car. That's all. Yeah, Yeah. Just a driver. So, Marnie Kendra, thank you so much for joining me on huddle up with Gus. I really appreciate your time today. Thank you. My pleasure. You. Hey, everyone thanks for joining me again on huddle up with gusts. You can check us out and huddle up with gusts dot com. And I want to thank 16 31 Digital News. Check out us at their studio on on their website, 16 31 digital news dot com. And we want to thank Sounder FM. And we also want to appreciate Manscaped dot com for, for them and you know, working with us and becoming one of our partners, we really appreciate Manscaped dot com. Check them out at Manscaped dot com and put in my code Gus Frerotte all caps, get 20% off and free shipping. Thank you again for a great show. We appreciate Kendra, we appreciate Marnie, check them out at their instagram and uh and everything else like twitter linkedin. I'm sure they're everywhere like everyone else's. But thanks for joining us again. Have a great day, everyone and that's a wrap sports fan. Thanks for joining in the fun at the 16 31 digital studios for another actually huddle up with Gus featuring 15 year NFL quarterback Aspirin, huddle up with Gus is proudly produced by 16 31 digital media and is available on apple music.

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